On the couch with my babies

I just found myself this morning sleeping on the couch and as soon as my babies woke up, they all joined me. I mean all of them. You may think they are so many but well, many is any number more than one, right? Any way, so one squeezed himself at my feet and cuddled there, the other snuggled besides me and they both slept off again peacefully. Wow…. my babies sleeping so peacefully with me! I call them my babies not because they suckle but because they depend on me for many things.
It’s not the first time they do that. Every morning, I notice that though they sleep on their own beds, even in their bedrooms, very early they will wake up and before you realise, the bold knock on the door wakes you up. The next think you hear is, “good morning daddy, good morning mummy” and this will be repeated till you respond… even a sleepy grunt is sufficient. Before you realise, they have found themselves a space on our bed where to squeeze and catch up a morning sleep. Sometimes it’s inconveniencing, and we want to chase them but today I realise the previledge I have. I know it’s a blessing God has given us with my sweet Treasure. Oh, Treasure is my sweet wife, my true Love and strength of my youth who gives meaning to my life. Let me leave it at that for now.
So this morning, even as I am trying not to topple off the couch, I realize how blessed we are. To have these bundles of joy. The fun, the joy they bring… my wife the other day was telling me how when after trying hard to make my sulking two year old to smile with me baby shark dance moves… and her refusing to yield to my fun, she turned to her mother after I had left the room and said…”Mummy Daddy is soo funny”… I burst out laughing…. And then there is this blessing we can’t take for granted… especially given that if the Lord had left it to genes, we would be in trouble. So usually, at 2 to 5years old, you are not bothered whether your babies weewee on bed. But it’s different at our home where it’s a common thing to hear our 2 year old and 4yr old say mummy i want to “susu” in the middle of the night. Well, I thank God for his continued blessings.

Today on the couch I just remembered that these kids depend on us and their joy stems from spending time and being with us. I remember how daily they are full of fun, joy, peace with no needs at all as long as mummy and daddy are present. They sometimes ask you to buy them snacks and you come back from work without any but usually they won’t ask, why? They just have faith in us that we shall bring them snack or something great for them tomorrow. So usually, especially my Treasure will always come home with a lot of snacks for them but even then, their joy at welcoming either of us back home is never dependant on what we are carrying. They don’t have to ask us for food, school fees, rent or anything but even at their tender age, they will not take their blessings for granted. I am always humbled when my 4 year old son turn and in such a serious voice says “Thank you daddy for bringing us back home” whenever we arrive at home from church. My wife says he does the same with her, “Thank you Mummy for bringing us to church “ … and we are like wow… this adorable kid… I mean he doesn’t have to thank us…

Now, now do you realize how blessed it is to be an available daddy and mummy. These children learn from daddy and mummy 90% of what they will become in life. How they will treat their spouses in future depend on how I treat my Treasure. Whether they cohabit or not is dependant on if we also cohabited.
Allow me give you another interesting story of our 4 yr old son. He has three major friends at school that he talks about so much at home. Two of these are girls. One time we visited his school and his class teacher told us an interesting thing that our son said. He said that when he grows he wants to marry his friend( one of the two friends) and put a ring on her hand. Now that’s not what a 4 yr old can say. But at home they are always asking us about the ring on the finger and the wedding pictures on the wall. I tell them that mummy is their mother but she is first my wife so they know the importance of marriage. They have learnt the right way to marry from us.

There are two things I want to point out in all that I have written.
One is that children learn from us parents and therefore it’s important to be available as the greatest teacher of your children. The greatest mistake many parents make is, they think that being absent as long as they buy them everything they want. That’s a big mistake because another person will take on your role of a teacher to your children. That person could be a maid or television or music which will influence them the way you don’t want. Usually parents realise that their children are a mess when it’s too late.

Secondly, we too are children and God is our Father. I’ve leant that the more I spend time with God and know Him, the more I have joy, peace and found rest for my soul. I’m so blessed to have know God. In 2017 around March, for example I studied Matt 6:25-33 (That’s why I’m telling you to stop worrying about your life—what you will eat or what you will drink—or about your body—what you will wear. Life is more than food, isn’t it, and the body more than clothing?26  Look at the birds in the sky. They don’t plant or harvest or gather food into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. You are more valuable than they are, aren’t you? 27  Can any of you add a single hour to the length of your life by worrying? 28  And why do you worry about clothes? Consider the lilies in the field and how they grow. They don’t work or spin yarn, 29  but I tell you that not even Solomon in all of his splendor was clothed like one of them.30  Now if that is the way God clothes the grass in the field, which is alive today and thrown into an oven tomorrow, won’t he clothe you much better—you who have little faith? 31  “So don’t ever worry by saying, ‘What are we going to eat?’ or ‘What are we going to drink?’ or ‘What are we going to wear?’32  because it is the unbelievers who are eager for all those things. Surely your heavenly Father knows that you need all of them!33  But first be concerned about God’s kingdom and his righteousness, and all of these things will be provided for you as well.) and from then on I made a decision never to worry again because my father in heaven loves me so much. So it’s been over 3years and never worried. I mean it. It’s a true testimony of finding rest in the Lord. So if you have known the Lord, invite Him in your life. Talk to Him now and start a strong relationship with Him, not a casual one. Quit a sinful life and live as a light for Jesus in the world.
John 1:12 says we are children of God. It’s foolish for me to worry when I have have God as my Father who love me. So as children trust their parents please trust the Lord. Rest in him. God bless you.

The treasure before me

How do I know she is the one? How do I know it’s God’s Will? These and more are the questions I’m often asked by young people intending to marry or who want to know God’s will.

It was 2014 April when suddenly I felt and knew in my spirit that, “……this is my season”. God wants me to marry. So I decided to seek God for direction. During that time, I was in South Sudan working as a missionary and not in any relationship whatsoever . So how did I find her? I mean my Treasure, the one God prepared for me. I started praying to God to reveal her to me. But I felt that that wasn’t enough and in The month of May, I got my bible. I mean the word of God who showed me that it was my season. I crammed and memorized all verses on marriage. Why? Because, If you want marriage God’s way, then do it His way through the Word. Daily I prayed those verses and reminded God of how he said, “it wasn’t good for me to be alone”…. You see, many people pray but don’t know how to receive from God(I will share this in my next blog. How to receive from God). So, apart from the word and praying, I also was expectant. Daily I stood before the mirror and declared to Mr Thomas Adyang,”….you are blessed and highly favored of God. Today be ready to meet your wife”. So day by day I said that throughout May 2014. I was so focused that all I wanted from God wasn’t money, house, rent blessings even though at that time I had non of those.

June came and I continued in prayer but also travelled for our annual convention in kampala. Through out the convention i remember, they would tell us to pray for so and so, but I focus on one thing, the wife. So after the convention, something happened in June as I talked with one pastor asking about the wellbeing of some believers and Lo and behold as I mentions a name Celia, my spirit jump within me. I knew instantly I’ve received a wife. Who? I asked my spirit! Your wife! He said. Ahhh, Lord this woman of high caliber! I prayed. Well all I did was believe. Simple! No questions. So what next? I prayed for the real words to tell her I loved her and want to marry her.

After two days we met and talked and that same week on Sunday went out on a date after church. Here is the problem I had on that date; whether to tell her that I loved her or to wait. Well I told her on our way home and she remained quiet. That night I was suppose to travel back to Juba my duty station. So again in the bus I sent her a text,” I love you”. Now that’s crazy! Isn’t it? We just met and I’m telling her I love you…… crazy! Not So? But when God is involved it may not make sense but the result proves the sense. So we started to date in July, and while she was still saying she needed time to pray about it, another bombshell explodes. God speaks to me clearly on my way to a prayer meeting, “your wedding is in December”. Ah Lord, I haven’t proposed and neither has she accepted to marry me, I said. But God has said. Like Mary, I said, “let it be as you have said”. Ehh… How much did I have as savings? Nothing! I mean negative balance on my accout. I had used my money to help the poor in Juba. when God speaks, He means it and is able to do it. So i believed and told her that the wedding was in December and she protested. Uhh I’m really crazy.

August I proposed to her in a great restaurant, Hollywood style and she said Yes! So what next? The kukyala in October and introduction and wedding arrangements on 6th and 12th December. The one prayer i prayed during the organisation of our wedding was, Lord let no one take your glory but you only. Of course the wedding was glorious. I didn’t ask God for a tall beautiful so and so wife but the woman of His will for me. When I found her I discovered she is a woman every man would dream to have. Submissive, hard working, beautiful and all I ever needed in the wife. She is my help meet. God’s ways are not our ways……

To you my only Treasure and love of my life. Celia Adyang